Comments for Easy To Love But Hard to Raise

Comment on Taming the stress monster (If you can’t change the child, then change the environment) by Barbara Claypole White

Barbara Claypole White — Thu, 17 May 2012 20:44:54 +0000

I hate myself when I lose my rag, but sometimes, we really are just along for the ride. I think we have to give ourselves permission to screw up, to be stressed, to scream, yell, and cry. To know that we are good parents but we’re also human. Everyone has a snapping point. Remember, even Mary Poppins was only “practically perfect.” Big hug.

Comment on Taming the stress monster (If you can’t change the child, then change the environment) by Erica

Erica — Wed, 16 May 2012 21:27:24 +0000

Hi Adrienne,
So stressful – thoughts to you for the rest of your week to be more at peace. I went to yoga last night. Came home & allowed myself to be drawn into the conflict cycle. Instead of taking a yoga breath, I wanted to give a good left hook. Instead my thoughts were imploding up myself. Erica

Comment on Taming the stress monster (If you can’t change the child, then change the environment) by Sharon

Sharon — Wed, 16 May 2012 19:21:17 +0000

I can so feel your pain and relate. We also spend most of our time trying to avoid situations that will disrupt the ever so priceless calm that we don’t get enough of. And……just when you think you know all the tricks and have a handle on things something that would be ordinary in another persons life becomes all out chaos in our unpredictable lives. Pulling over was the right thing to do. I am sure the spanking was just a reaction on your part. You and I both know that spanking does no good with kids like ours. When we have to pull over…..which is not uncommon…..the adults get out of the car until my daughter calms down. I can’t count the number of times I have been blind sided by slaps in the face, punches in the back, things thrown at my head…..and the list goes on. I basically have to shut myself down until the storm passes and then resume being a mom. It is never easy and you are not alone.

Comment on Taming the stress monster (If you can’t change the child, then change the environment) by Regina Corbin

Regina Corbin — Wed, 16 May 2012 19:05:37 +0000

Wow, Adrienne. This is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately, and almost a detailed account of what transpired at my house last night and this morning, although not including a car or other children. Just me and my son. It feels like my patience has completely worn out and all that I have left is yelling and physical encounters (which I’m not happy with and don’t approve of). I’m learning little things about his ability to manipulate the situation and getting better about reading that and knowing when it’s just that he’s overwhelmed. I try to start each day with a new and clear outlook, and that’s the most I can hope for at the moment. I just wanted you to know that this made me think about my own actions and my self-promise to get better at handling the punches that come my way. I hope you find some peace too.

Comment on Taming the stress monster (If you can’t change the child, then change the environment) by Natalia Erehnah

Natalia Erehnah — Wed, 16 May 2012 19:00:23 +0000

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.” (Jon Kabat-Zinn) And if we fall off the board, we sputter to the surface and keep swimming. Or clinging to the board for dear life.

Thank you for honestly sharing your journey.

Comment on A Not-So-Perfect Summer Redux by Lorraine

Lorraine — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:38:22 +0000

Hi Elaine,

Thanks for commenting. Sorry to hear your circumstances are much less than ideal, but so glad you have a healthy perspective on the perfectionism. I am continually working at it. Baby steps!

Comment on A Not-So-Perfect Summer Redux by Elaine Hobbs

Elaine Hobbs — Tue, 15 May 2012 11:53:38 +0000

i know how you feel i too am a perfectionist. I learn that when i was younger when my dad passed away when i was 13. i try to please my mother in any way try to do thing myself without any help from anyone. After i was 23 i learn i can’t do it all that i needed help. But that was a turning point in my life. i still try to do things all by myself but it took a little time first to recupurtate from a nervous breakdown. and i swore i would never let that happen to me again. until this day i am not perfect and i realize i never will be. i will strive to do my best. see i have a 9 yr old who is ASD which is the biggest chanellage to me and thrown in a 2 yr old and trying to raise a 16 yr old all by yourself. Daddy doesn’t help much even though we are still married. but he doesn’t contribute to raising the children he himself is like a big child. the peter pan symdrome. where he act a child but is a man. and only thinks about himself. it is not a real disease but it a handcapped for him. he needs some parenting skills and step up and be a dad to the children

Comment on Kevin the Climber, Part II by Michael Shay

Michael Shay — Tue, 08 May 2012 00:23:35 +0000

Keep on climbing, Kevin. Great to hear from you.

Comment on Kevin the Climber, Part II by Kevin

Kevin — Sun, 06 May 2012 23:21:30 +0000

Wow you have no idea what I’m thinking right now my name Is Kevin and I climb mountains for my sport and I have adhd this 26 year old man I basically me only I’m his younger version because I’m 16 I have been climbing thing since a was 6 like the tree’s and the swings and stuff so your son and me have a lot in common

Comment on Helping Each Other by Barbara Claypole White

Barbara Claypole White — Fri, 04 May 2012 20:21:46 +0000

I love my support group so, so much.